Okay - so here is a suggestion on the direction following/understanding. This is actually one that is a suggested game in my 3yo's 'school work' to help them learn to understand and follow multi step directions. Treasure hunts! With Evan, we use a checker board with chekers covering every square and a star hidden under one checker somewhere. He puts his finger on one checker in the corner and I verbally give him "Right 2 spots...Left...Forward 3...Backward..." directions that I have already written down as the map. If he follows them correctly, he finds the star at the end and gets a piece of candy. If not, we start over. For Phoebe, you could do written directions that she has to follow from place to place. Maybe have to solve some sort of puzzle to figure out what the next step is. Just an idea...