In describing our experience, I find myself hesitant to refer to EC now as "Infant Potty Training", although that seems to be the only phrase people can relate to to understand what we're doing. I get a lot of "oh, yeah, I just read about that in the NY Times" or "They do that in other countries, why not, I guess", but I still also get "well, who's actually getting trained? You or them?" The answer, as I see it right now, is neither, and both. It absolutely requires active participation on my part. Nothing could be simpler than to go back to sticking my daughter in a disposable, and letting her balloon it out to capacity the way I used to (as my part in minimizing our garbage and diaper bills). So yes, I'm doing a lot of the work in catching my daughter's output. I'm learning her habits and her behaviours that indicate when she needs to go. I"m catching about 50% of her output now... One day last week I only required four diapers in the day. But yes, it is ME catching - although she's starting to recognize the cues that I give HER to go, and is going when cued (but still not holding it when not).

My ultimate question, though, is why is that considered a BAD thing? Why shouldn't I get to know my daughter so well that I can predict her needs? We're so ingrained with the fear of being manipulated by our children ("don't let them sleep with you, cause then they'll become needy kids", "if you don't force them to go to sleep without crying, they'll never learn to be independent", "if you don't wean them from the breast early, they'll never learn self confidence!") that we're projecting that onto 3 month olds. I'm sorry, but my 3 month old is incapable of manipulating me.

She is, however, capable of putting her pee in the potty where it belongs.